I think he's saying you need to type in short paragraphs and use a couple of line spaces between the paragraphs.
BTW, that was a very flattering post you wrote to me. It was like a shot of B12.
I agree with Cadet about being very careful with this XGF. Not only are you extremely vulnerable right now, but I recognize signs in her that are way too familiar to me. I realize you want to have your question answered by her, but I doubt she'll be completely honest. At best, she'll water it down, b/c you are useful to her at the moment.
Whenever a woman tells you she needs a friend, or wants someone to talk to...........RUN! Run in the opposite direction as hard as you can. Several reasons why, and starting with one is the fact she should not be discussing her M, or intimate details with an XBF. She can talk to her mother, siblings, or female friends about her feelings. She should not discuss it with you.
Second, you don't know if her H is in an EA or not. If he is, this is none of your business, and you will be "used" by her. It would be easy to rebound from your own M, and you sure don't need a woman who is on the rebound, too.
Third reason, she will dump you again, once you usefulness no longer applies to her needs. Sorry for being so blunt. I don't know this woman, of course, but I don't have to personally be acquainted with her, to know how this will turn out for you. She fits the bill, perfectly. I can tell by how you write about her, that she could pull you right in.
Fourth reason, she must be an older woman, or had her kids when she was a teenager. She's a grandmother, so I doubt she plans to have any more children. You, on the other hand, would like very much to have a child of your own. I know this sounds as if I'm jumping the gun here, and you may be thinking you aren't looking that far into the future, yada....yada. I have seen this exact situation end in a M, and the H never having children of his own. Think about it.
Fifth reason, she may appear as a salve for your bruised ego, but it's only temporary. You saw how she made everything about her. Please do not "settle" for less than you deserve. To get involved with this woman, or any woman, to prove you can win her back.....sets yourself up for another painful experience.
You may be in denial about the innocence in this re-connection with an old flame, but it is not a good idea to pursue.
Get involved in something that provides you with opportunities of meeting new people. Don't reach back in to the past, reopening old wounds. Look forward with a beginner's mind.
It sounds like you are soaking up a lot of information. That is great! And you don't worry about whether or not you should be here after just getting divorced. If you feel you are learning and growing, then you belong.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
