I'm not saying we should be dating, just that it's an option. I'll agree that it can make R less likely, for obvious reasons.
I think the real issue here is that if you are not healed and whole from the first relationship and you have done some real serious research about what is wrong with YOURSELF, it is highly likely that you will repeat history with someone else.
I think getting divorced is one of the things you should do as a minimum before you are going to be able to complete this process.
