I also believe my cancer scare was the final push for my h. This at the end of 3 years where he was unemployed for the majority of the time and rejected from his top choice school (only school applied to with plans for a midlife career change )
This time also saw loss of grandmother and then uncle after a long fight with Cancer. Uncles death resulted in the sale of his grandfather's home and h didn't take that well and began reminiscing and recreating activities "from the best parts of his childhood" he tried to rescue as much as he could and cram it into our tiny house.
Right before cancer scare h began a new job where he worked mostly with women who according to him were all always flirting with him and everyone seemed to think he was the greatest thing since sliced bread. (I believe the outward signs if mlc started here I just didn't know)
Then he reconnected with OW, a high school friend who he at first described to me as lonely and living a hard life.
All of the rewritten history begins at the tine,of the cancer scare and then spread backward over time.
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15
