Toot Toot - here I come!

[Sotto]

Thanks guys..

Gan, since BD, he has told me he'd have liked more kids but it wasn't central. He also said he'd be 65 before they were grown and did he want to go through all that again? Before BD, he would get broody moments and throw out a comment like - we need to adopt! But never to the point of seriously discussing that. His R with S has worsened and he's seeing less of him since BD. That's sad and ironic. I have thought about filing, but truly I don't want to do that right now.

Thanks Cali - that's good advice. And Edz, thanks for your good wishes. Jim, again thanks - I'm just absorbing and thinking right now. One thing I notice is the sitch has morphed from being sex focused to more about family. Soon after BD when he was with OW1, I asked what would need to change for us to save our M. He said I would have to dress more provocatively. That was the only thing. Now things have morphed into having a family. I think he is still looking for things to fill the hole inside of himself. Anyway, here's a draft reply:

H, I'm so sorry you feel that way. It must be hard to feel you missed out on being a full time dad. You already know this isn't what I want and that I don't intend filing for divorce. But if you decide to file, I won't stand in your way.

We can start taking steps to list the house, though a financial settlement would need to be in place before a sale could proceed. If I can help in any way, just let me know.

Take care, Toots.