Can it be another round?

[BrightFuture]

OK, had a happy hour with the IT team and a big boss who is leaving the company. Yes, nerds do party too, LOL.

So, here is what I learnt. H is back to drinking himself sick. I thought he stopped at some point. Even just for the luck of money. But, I guess not. Or, it started again… Sometimes he even doesn’t have anybody to drink with him. It is just him and the bar tender at the bar… What happened with all these fun single, party loving women?...

Another thing… He is freaking lonely… He is trying to keep in touch with this crazy woman from the vacation home place. Their relationship is very strange. I think she likes his attention and he likes that she likes it, if it makes sense. She might be going into her own MLC, who knows. Or, I just never had an experience of a red neck relationships (excuse me for the labels, I don’t want to offend anybody in any way.) The woman is fre@king married! As far as I know she and her H are not separated or anything like that. I just don’t understand what her H thinks about this r with my H. As I mentioned before, H and this woman “shared” a room on the trip a couple of months ago. Was her H ok with that? I just don’t know what to think anymore. I know that H and this woman’s H are friends. What is H thinking??? I’m also 99.9% sure that there was nothing physical between H and this woman. But, he is keeping in contact and flirting with her. So does she…

I’ve got some info that H is inviting this woman to visit him in the state where he is right now. Whaaaaat??? Is he out of his mind? Is she going to sleep with him in his camper bed? This what it looks like he is doing for now. Saving some money, sleeping in his camper. It is like a repeat of 2 ½ years ago, when he was inviting this Mexican girl to visit him and live with him in the camper. OMG! Is there any hope for this man???

I guess, I’m completely confused… Is this my H who is doing this stupid thing? Does he think it is going to be OK long term? Be close “friends” with this woman and also keep the friendship with her H? Personally, I think he is going to get himself in trouble.

And… This whole “affair” is just so bizarre… What is he getting out of it? If this woman would leave her H and become my H’s GF, how would he provide for her? She is used to not working (apparently she or her H have some money). I just don’t see any future for them… Doesn’t he? It just puzzles me… As long as he is involved with her (lost cause from my point of view), he will not be able to find this “special woman”, who would be his soul mate and the answer to all his desires, LOL.

To me, it looks like he is desperate for some attention, family and the ability to share his bed with a woman again… Would he do anything for that? This is why I think he is back to replay. H is just like a teenager, trying to have some fun and excitement and not thinking about the consequences.

And, Bea, I think you are so right when you say that might be too painful for them to realize that they actually had a very happy life with us, and that they cannot get it again anywhere else…