Therein lies the key sweet Diana. Act as if you are an outside viewer of your situation. Act like you're giving somebody else advice (of which you've given quite well on these boards).
Detach. No relationship talk. No initiating. Keep your conversations light and brief if H initiates. Use your energy on yourself.
Hi Diana,
I've read your thread and about your sitch. I will tell you that I see your struggle and I feel your pain as much of it resonates with me. I send you (((ehugs))), we all need them
I really like what RealMe says. It's golden and I'll be instituting that advice in my own sitch.
Hang tough girl, Diesel
Hello Diana,
I agree 100% with what RealMe and Diesel wrote that I felt obligated to quote them both.
I, like Diesel, really do feel your pain. I have made a big mistake of bringing up R issues when we were supposed to speak about light subjects. Ugh, it happens to us all.
BTW, thank you for your post in my thread earlier today. So many people posted, and I responded to all in a post a few hours ago.
In case you miss it, here is what I psoted to you:
Diana, you are too kind but I'll humbly accept the compliment. I am so happy I could make you feel better, even if it was only for a few minutes. Don't we all need that?
Take care and (((((Diana)))))
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
