Glad you had such a good day yesterday, Zues. It is such a strange feeling to find happiness and moments of content at such a difficult time. Nice that your children are reaping the benefits of working on you!
Since we don't have children, for me it has been from focusing on reconnecting with old friends and my own personal growth. I think being in a challenging marriage makes you forget about your own personal development and spirit, which is part of the reason you find yourself in a difficult marriage.
One of the things I appreciate about DB is that regardless of what happens with me and my H, I know I am doing the work to be a better person/spouse (to whomever is the recipient)moving forward. That is what helps push me forward and stay positive.
Will check out the Ted Talk.
Keep on keeping on!
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
