Yes! Finding a silver lining for yourself in anything- even horrible things is very self-centered (I mean that term in the best of ways)
Originally Posted By: NoleGrl
The next stage of this of going to be difficult. While we were having consistent text conversation and seeing each other once a week, that has now all stopped and we have very minimal contact. He is pushing to meet and try and work out the division of our assets.
No contact is difficult. Don't get caught in the trap of thinking that just because you don't initiate it that it's okay or helping. If you're still getting 'pulled in' than it's not helping you- regardless of who started the conversation.
Originally Posted By: NoleGrl
...even when I feel that I am doing ok in my interaction with H (which does happen sometimes), he still will say I'm "throwing daggers" at him or playing games. And I get that it takes consistent change for a long period of time for them to actually notice and when we backslide they just think we haven't changed. But do you think they actually can see the change? I mean sometimes I feel like it doesn't matter what I do, because it's never good enough.
You answered your own question. Stay detached. No R talk. He does and will notice. It doesn't matter if it's good enough for him- it's not for him darlin'.
