Winhamn intro - D in process, WAW

[Winhamn]

I've been in vegas for a couple days. She's constantly been emailing me about various kid related practical matters.

Today she wrote one that was really long, all about how she wants to divide our assets. It started off with "Since you've been out of the house, I realize how angry and anxious I am when you are around, it think it'd be good for you to move out as soon as possible".

I hate the emails she sends me, and I used to just ignore them. Which didn't help out at all in any of this process. I refuse to handle this stuff over email, so I've been calling her to respond to the emails.

Anyway, I called her, and hashed out a few practical matters, then said "can you help me understand why you are so angry right now?"

She responded "well I'm not going to get into everything, but right now the thing that is bothering me so much is that I feel like I have to handle all the household responsibilities while you get to be Mr Fun Dad with the kids all the time."

Things sort of went downhill from there, as I asked "how can I help" she said "Move out" and I said "no" etc etc. I kept my cool during the whole thing.

It [censored]. I'm not going to stop being Mr Fun Dad, and I'm totally taking care of stuff around the house.

I need to take my own advice and realize "Her complaint is content free" and I need to make an effort to understand what she's really saying.

I actually think the absolute best case scenario at this point is that she totally unloads on me with all her built up anger. She has to get that off her chest.