Toot Toot - here I come!

[gan]

Oh, Toots. That must have been so hard to read.

Your H sounds very adrift. Did he ever communicate the "wanting more kids" thing to you before or did that come out of left field? As I understood, your H doesn't have the greatest relationship with his S. Is that correct? If only he could read Jim's, Edz' and so many other threads here and see how much fulfilment comes from improving a father's relationship with his kids. No new kids needed!

Toots, this is not about you. This is very much about H. I hope you can see that.

I think you need to do what is best for you. Given your concerns re listing the house and not having things sorted and the 2 year rule in the UK, maybe you filing is an option after all? I know that isn't what I would want to hear if I just heard something similar from my H, but you do often discuss your financial position and I wonder if you would feel "safer" taking things into your own hands. Hard to see H being proactive in his current state?

((((Toots))))