On the brink #2

[Starsky309]

Toldja.

Re: On the brink, need a miracle [Re: Onguard]
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Registered: 10/11/10
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Originally Posted By: Onguard


Lastly, I need to continue to be the best dad I can be and GAL. The Stockdale paradox was helpful. I have to accept the brutal facts that the woman I loved for 30 years is gone. The life we had is gone and will never be the same. She does not love me now and may never love me again. This is ok and my life's purpose is bigger than my relationship with my spouse. I can be happy without her, or any other individual, in my life.



There. Fixed it for you. smirk

OG, don't overdo this. Yes, your OLD marriage is dead and gone, but I'm sure you would BOTH admit that there were things about it that NEEDED burying. Many people do, however, successfully reconcile and put together a brand NEW marriage, that was even better than before. I did, and Train is well on her way too. There are many others.

And even post-D, about 20-25% remarry, nearly all reporting that the new marriage was FAR better than the original one.

You're not done here . . . not by a long shot. 5 DAYS before my wife came to be tearfully expressing her never-ending love for me and pleading with me to help her, she was telling her OM that "No one ever did it for me like you do" and saying ILYs.

It's a wild ride . . . get your spew jacket ready and hang on, brother.


Starsky
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M54 W 54; D27 D25 S21 S18 GD5 GD 6m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07
Filed 4 D 7/07
Piecing 07-10
At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)

Ya done great, brother. STRENGTH and HONOR.


Starsky

[Sotto]

OG, I'm so pleased for you both - good luck with everything!!

T xx

[RAI]

Onguard!

Holy Moly! Awesome. So rare to see this on the forum! Best of luck.

RAI

[RAI]

definitely going to read your thread in great detail!!

RAI

[Train]

OG,

Way to hang in there and do it, friend. I'm so happy for you.

Remember we will continue to be here through Piecing, too, if you need any feedback or just sounding boards.

Oh, happy day!!!!

[RAI]

OMG! Best thread I've ever read. I spent the last 3 hours reading it. It is 3AM. Completely gripping and inspirational! Totally worth every minute! I can't stop using exclamation marks! It only took you 55 posts . But every post was pure DB gold.
I am so far away from R, but you were too many times. Your story gives me hope and a new strength to GAL. I have such respect for you. Thank you for sharing your story.

Best of luck with piecing. Blessings on your new union!

RAI