She forgot to pickup S7 from the afterschool program on her night!!!
I also got a lot of strange texts (slightly modified). I'm a bit baffled by. I haven't responded to them after a point. Any insight would be welcome.
Sherman I got a call from M. You were supposed to pick him up tonight. As I'm getting him early tomorrow for the appointment. Tuesday/Thursday visits start next week. You can check your texts. I have him. Let me know if you're still coming to get him tonight?
STBXW Oh crap no I forgot
STBXW I will come get him
Sherman But back by 8. Ok
STBXW How about if I just take him to appointment tomorrow then
STBXW I will just get to work early
STBXW I had blood drawn today and am still shaky
STBXW Hello?
Sherman Driving
STBXW Yes or no?
STBXW I will come get him if I need to tonight
STBXW Every second counts so please let me know
Sherman I have plans for tomorrow with him after the appointment. He's yawning right next now.
STBXW I am coming then
Sherman Will you have time to get his homework done?
STBXW Will try
STBXW I have an hour drive time
Sherman I know
STBXW Can't change plans? I am leaving now
Sherman No
STBXW On my way
Sherman Ok
STBXW Make sure he is ready to go
Sherman Homework is done.
Sherman I did it with him.
STBXW Here (NOTE: The marital home)
STBXW Is there room on healthcare spending card? On my Friday weekends I am having him see therapist of my choosing from a healing place in town. So he only needs to see your therapist on your weeks.
Sherman No
STBXW I will have to use it till it is no more
STBXW How much is left?
STBXW Is the therapits testifying in court for you? Why her? Why where she's at... it's inconvienent? (NOTE: The therapist is the same city where the divorce will happen)
STBXW Over a thousand left on healthcare spending card. Why are you lying to me? (NOTE: Don't know where she got that from, I canceled our cards and am waiting on new ones)
STBXW So is she just for therapy or is there an ulterior motive on your part? This makes a difference on how I proceed? Answer me honestly.
STBXW Just keep S7 with your therapist. I don't care anymore. We will know each other for the rest of our lives. I won't forgive you for what you are doing. Ever.
Sherman Just got home. From riding. The therapist is there for S7.
STBXW I had no concerns till he told me she goes into town and talks with the judge. Then he recanted. I just asked him if he liked her and what does a therapist do
STBXW I know you are being strategic but you aren't being fair
STBXW Whatever
STBXW You win Sherman
Sherman This is not my definition of winning.
Sherman None of this is.
STBXW Tuesday's and Thursday's and every other weekend. You take him to the therapist you plan on testifying against me. Whatever. We have nothing else to talk about till September. Except...
STBXW I want the holidays switched to what is my version of agreement. I do not agree to having it as it is now.
STBXW Please confirm and then I don't have to talk with you anymore
STBXW You aren't trying to share our son and it is very clear. (NOTE: she gets the same number of evenings as I do, but I still have him overnight.)
STBXW Please look at dates so we can have planned out
STBXW I am taking him later half of Christmas break so I want New Year's Day etc
STBXW It benefits you too
STBXW Memorial Day
STBXW Next Easter spring break
STBXW I am okay with making exception for July 4 and Halloween if he wants to have them at your house
STBXW I am asking for agreement on this but just know I will have my way on this. Your way is not the default
STBXW I am being reasonable
STBXW He is excited about going to Disney with Nephew, SIL, BIL and you. You managed to turn my family against me with your version of things. There are two sides. Shame on you for that
STBXW So yeah you win Sherman
STBXW There will come a day Sherman that you will feel bad for what you are doing and will want my forgiveness. I will never forgive you.
STBXW And that I am bipolar? I have said NOTHING about you but yet you lie about me and spread rumors. Tell people I left you for OM when I didn't. I realize I was attracted to other people and not you and I want other things out of life. Stop saying the wrong reason. But see, I can't make you stop. So yeah, you win Sherman.
STBXW Don't tell me you aren't winning. You are trying to destroy me. This isn't about divorce or sharing S7. You are trying to destroy me. Good job
STBXW Your days for holidays don't coincide well with our first and second halves of Christmas break. I propose swapping my July 4th for your New Year's Day so I can take him to Disney
STBXW Putting in calendar now
As for turning her family against her... I didn't do that. They already didn't like her much. This just convinced them that they're done. The only reason they had made contact with her was S7 and his cousin. Otherwise, they would have never bothered to engage STBXW according to them. She's just playing victim and blaming a lot of her troubles on me.
I didn't agree to any of the changes to the calendar yet. I figure its not worth arguing until the divorce is final and the days are set for sure.
I did make it out to ride my bike... got in ~10 miles before she brought S7 back.
Last edited by Cadet; 04/30/1509:54 PM.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
