Therein lies the key sweet Diana. Act as if you are an outside viewer of your situation. Act like you're giving somebody else advice (of which you've given quite well on these boards).
Detach. No relationship talk. No initiating. Keep your conversations light and brief if H initiates. Use your energy on yourself.
Hi Diana,
I've read your thread and about your sitch. I will tell you that I see your struggle and I feel your pain as much of it resonates with me. I send you (((ehugs))), we all need them
I really like what RealMe says. It's golden and I'll be instituting that advice in my own sitch.
