ZuEs, part of my journey now is understanding that there may be "no bad dogs" but if one bites my hand repeatedly, to call it what is, instead of romanticizing it. That I'm not responsible for providing skills to my H when he just wants to blame me and find other women to make him happy.
The difference between what you shared with me is that you cared about your M and stopped before it could go further. That exchange I posted was from the same month my STBX was telling me we'd be together forever, showing a completely different side of his heart to a bartender he'd attempted to hook up with once.
Your W that a fool woulx have to leave - that was me when he came back to me. I told him I understoid he did what made sense to him and I wouldn't let myself be angry about it, they were his choices. And he put in his ring,
Some here on this board don't get to stages of anger or resentment. I'm not going to hold on to it forever but I'm not going to squash it all down and say I don't feel deeply violated and used by someone I trusted.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
