"The greater issue is that my W has deep deep insecurities that are now surfacing as the A."

Mindreading. You're not her psychologist. You don't know for sure if that's what's causing it as much as you believe it to be.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER