I also did some research this morning on the Stockdale Paradox, and what an amazing, and powerful concept. So as I understand it, it's looking this horrible situation right in the face, and having the faith to believe that I will have the positive outcome that I want in the end. ie: I have faith that my husband and I will be back together, and live a very happy loving life together.

Being optimistic, not fully taking stock of thr situation, and creating false hopes and timelines.

M: 47 / H: 52
No children.
Own a business together.
Told me he wanted a divorce: 3/31
Moved out: 4/7
Confirmed OW: 4/16
Took divorce off the table: 4/24