Yes I have figured out how to find people's posts on here and I wiull read 25yearsmlc's story (Thank you for the info). I put in to have my name changed froiim lost14to XFit14 because it was suggested that mine is too generic and is also similar to someone ese's. If/when it does change please dont lose track of me Cadet.....Please!
I do not know the stages of grieving but I know there are stages. I will look into those today as it is my Friday and I plan on spending the night doing some reading.
Cadet (and others) please dont get frustrated with me either. I feel like Im drowning a bit right n ow and I am trying to process and absorb all this as well as take care of myself and implement the techniques etc. What I mean is....I know I am asking a lot of the same questions and searching for the why's to questions no one can answer but her (Ex). If she even has a reason. I'm not trying to giove anyone reason to roll their eyes at me or say I'm not getting it. I am gettingh a LOT of it. I'm just having trouble grasping some of the reasons this is happening even though inside I know I was responsible for her wanting to leave. It was fixable though. But one of the biggest hurts is that it seemed SO EASY for her.....wow!!! maybe she didn't love me that much after all...... sobering thought.
Cadet I appreciate you saying this -----YOU get to decide what your life is going to look like going forward. You are broken and bombed in a heap on the bottom of a huge pit. You will need to get up, dust yourself off, and start climbing out of that pit. No one can tell you what route to take or when to do it. However it is what you must do.----
I understand this and I get it. Thank you for saying it oor putting it in print so I can refer back to it.
M 44 W 44 Married 2007 T-8 years M-7 years 1 stepson (now age 16) BD October 2014 I moved out Feb 2015 Divorce final ....(4-27-15)
