Disengage her for a bit. Make it a goal. How about for the rest of the week and weekend?
You have very little precious energy in your tank right now and you are using it on communication with her instead of using it on yourself.
Detaching is not going dark. Detaching is not giving up.
I've read all of your posts now and I feel like encouraging you to just stop for a second, breathe, and take a time out. Not for her my friend....for you.
