(I happened across another story where 25yearsmlc was posting and I really liked what he was posting in response. I tried sending a message to ask for him /her to read my story also but I dont seem to be able to do that. Can anyone advise how to get in contact with spomeone to do that?)
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25yearsmlc is a woman who is a success story here. Do you know how to find her posts? She is a huge believer and proponent of DB! Private messaging is not allowed on this board.
Lost14 you are in the grieving process right now, I have been where you are too. Don't run away from the grief, cause right now I am sure it feels like your ex is dead and for the moment that might be the best way to think about it.
This has all been very sudden and shocking.
Do you know what the stages of grief are? Can you recognize them in yourself? What you need is a plan to get better, for YOU!
Here is the nice part of this,(I know you are thinking what is Cadet trying to say, sounds like another Gift)
YOU get to decide what your life is going to look like going forward. You are broken and bombed in a heap on the bottom of a huge pit. You will need to get up, dust yourself off, and start climbing out of that pit. No one can tell you what route to take or when to do it. However it is what you must do.
It is OK to wallow for a little while and be a victim, eventually you need to start moving forward again.
