I know there are no guarantees but.....

[XFit14]

So yesterday ....well...I got through it. That's about the best I can say. I feel numb. I was dealing with this all pretty well in terms of the separation, new house for us both, getting things setup, bought, hung on walls, painting....all the stuff that goes along with getting settled.....unfortunately alone. It at least took my mind off things a bit. I like the store Hobby Lobby. It's a great place (here in this state) to find things to hang on the wall, art, framed sayings, frames etc etc. You get the point. The worst aisle to walk down is the one that talks all about relationship sayings. All the family ones just sting because we had that stuff up on our walls at our recently sold dream house.

I may be wrong in this statement but I know this site is called divorce busting and well....my divorce was final this week. So....... I know I can still implement the techniques and such but there is nothing to stop any longer...it is done. And, from what I have gathered....without really even trying, is that she is seeing someone already. Once my son gets his license (next month) there wont really be a reason to stop b y the house ( dont take that wrong...I am not stalking or driving by. I dont need the extra pain of seeing abnother truck in the driveway in the middle of the night. I have been over there briefly three times and two of those were to pick up my step son) to see or pick him up because he will be able to drive to my place and meet me when we go riding and this further decreases any chances of seeing my (now) ex and of us having any contact. I know I need to work on ME and I am but I one of the other major reasons I am here is / was to try to save my marriage or get my wife back somehow. Am I missing the point? Is it too late since the divorce is final? Do I need a smack with a 2 x 4?

Mozza-- I read through your whole story and yes it has some definite similarities. I feel for you as we (all) are going through a rough patch with this and I commend you for taking the initiative to help others while you are going tbhrough your own trials and tribulations. You posted something that really hit home and I need to go back and try to find it and when I do I will comment on it. I appreciate the input you have given me so far. (Quick question and I am relatively new to navigating this site but your posts about yourself seemed to end around Oct 2014 or did I miss the next link somewhere?? I have searched but I dont see a continuation of that same named thread??)

I know I am not the only one going through this although it feels like only my world is falling apart right now. I am at work, fuctioning, eating, somewhat sleeping, working out and doing some activites with friends when the schedule permits. I know patience and time are required which is tough in this case for obvious reasons. I know I have to furether detatch emotionally because I do think about her and this other guy she is dating and what I am missing etc. I miss my step son but have to be careful not to overdue it with him as then it appears fake or forced.

I guess what I'm asking is .....now what? IS it over for me since the divorce is final and wasnt busted? What do I do now?? Why does this seem SO easy for her and so hard for me (us?) Why does this keep happening to me...... (yes reading this back I am having a feel sorry for myself day....sorry this week just feels like the bandaide was ripped off and the wound is wide open again.

(I happened across another story where 25yearsmlc was posting and I really liked what he was posting in response. I tried sending a message to ask for him /her to read my story also but I dont seem to be able to do that. Can anyone advise how to get in contact with spomeone to do that?)

I happened across