Complete attachment is hard, especially when H is trying to still maintain friendship. Wants to go out and act single, but then wants my support when he needs it. I keep getting brought back into the cycle.
As far as detaching goes, I am going to lovingly pull back from my still pursuing behavior that is making my H think I will always be there. I did that this morning and he asked if I was pissed out. I said no, just tired. I then made sure to act a little more cheerful, but then eat my breakfast outside instead of at table with H.
He has said he does not want any physical contact and even hugs are hard for him now. He initiated hug before he left this morning.
Any suggestions from your end on detaching while still living together?
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
