Yesterday it happened. My w made a heartfelt plea for me to give our M another shot. She sent me an email and in it she agreed to my 2 conditions. Stop going to the studio where she met her ap and full transparency. Also, I had not reiterated those conditions for months. She knew what they were and for me to repeat myself would have weakened my position. (Which is exactly what the vets on here taught me). The email was too long and personal for me to share it all but lets just say it was the most beautiful thing she has ever said to me in over 31 years.

I fully understand how much pain I have caused you.
I want to make it up to you, let me prove this to you.
I want to build a new us, a stronger and better us.
I want to show you that you can trust me.
I will never let you go again. I want us. Please tell me that you do too.
I want to be your wife, forever.
I don't know what I was thinking, please give me a chance to prove it. I'm so sorry.

I told her that I was very happy that she feels this way and that I want to build a new relationship too. I also said that it is going to be a long, tough process and she is going to have to be patient with me. But, if she is willing to give 100% then I am too.

For most of the last year I never thought this day would come. I guess now the really hard work begins. Piecing. I'm excited that we are going to try and R. It feels amazing to me that I was able to bust my D for now. I know I keep saying it but THANK YOU to everyone in this amazing community for giving me the knowledge, strength and support to make it this far. And not just the vets, thank you to each of you who has posted the details of your sitch. I hope that you will all find peace and happiness very soon.


Me: 45 W: 44
M: 20 T: 31
S 20, D 13

W affair ended 5-13-14
W confessed 5-27-14
W wants to R 4-1-15; I'm not sure
Living in same house, separate beds