Back again, advice needed..

[Tulo]

Zeus, I can't thank you enough for your reply, and I do appreciate the sales comparison, because I think the brain works like you say. I have felt it. The more someone tries to sell me something, the more I start to pull back.

I bought the DR many years ago, and had it up until a few weeks back when I accentually gave it away to a charity book thing I use to donate too. The jacket had come off and I thought it was another book, and gave it away. Go figure just 2-3 days later this happens.. Could the book have been giving me a hard time because I gave it away by accident..

But I have ordered a new one, that ought to have been here a long time ago, but still haven't made it so can't read it at the moment. As soon as it arrives I'll dig in and not stop until I'm finished with it. I need any little thing that can help me with these feelings of desperation I'm feeling now.

I actually don't believe he has got OW, feels like it would be very unlike him and the fact that he himself has been the victim of infidelity makes me think he wouldn't do that to someone else. He has said it a numerous times too. It's just that it feels like I would have understood all of this better, if he had found someone who he was in love with more than me. Now it's just me, who doesn't cut the mustard.

I've been reading your tread and it seems you have come a very long way indeed! So pleased for you!
I have started to read many others too but with all the abbreviations it takes me a good long while to get through it.

Tomorrow I will try to just listen to what he has to say, I'm not gonna be the one who says it's over, and I'll try to make him feel like I really listen to him and his needs. But when he says "he's got no more feelings and doesn't know why, stuff like that just happens" what would be your reply?
So as not to make it worse..?

All my best!! And again THANK YOU for your time!! It's very much appreciated!!