Control sited as to why an affair

[MrBond]

"So most affairs end with another affair?"

In my experience, yes. The thing is that when people have an A, they tend to blame the spouse as being the cause of their unhappiness. So they figure that to be happy, they need to find someone who will "make" them happy. That's BS. No one should rely on another to make them feel happy. That comes from within.

So rather than fixing themselves, the cheater goes and finds someone else. But the "in love" buzz of a new person fades anywhere between a couple weeks to 7 years (there is actually research on this). The cheater then feels that since they are no longer 'in love' with the person they cheated with, they move on someone else to get that 'in love' buzz again.

The way you described your past M and how you deeply fell in love with your current W sounded alot like someone who is on that 'in love' buzz. That doesn't last.