I thought everything was okay....(Part 5)

[Mozza]

I have "live" experience, as it's happening now. Like you, I registered a bit by accident, after clicking on an ad, but I recognize that I entered my info and completed my profile. I'm also emailing back and forth with someone and I just offered her to meet. I understand that she's also just out of a R and is not looking for something too serious.

My take on dating is a little different from yours, as you know. I'm mostly comfortable with the idea. I don't see it as an impediment to R and, controversially I know, I even see it as potential help. Dating and hoping for R are not mutually exclusive to me, so don't think that your interest in dating necessarily means you don't want to R anymore.

As for your true intentions, I'd tell you to watch your actions to know what you want. To me, the fact that you created the profile and got in touch with this woman tells me that this is what you want. And yes, this is your first step to a date, even if you don't want to admit it.

I think it's perfectly fine that you don't talk about it with your friends. I've also been an open book on my sitch, but on this I'm hesitant. I did mention it to a few people, and even my parents (who are supportive), but with much more restraint than the rest. I'm still a bit shy about having virtual observers of my dating. By the way, I don't share any description of the women to my close friends who know because I don't want to be influenced by their reactions. Attraction is highly personal.