NoleGrl, hugs to you. You are not alone in this emotional roller coaster.

My H has said he is scared of me too and he is over 6ft to my 5ft nothing!!!

I too feel that some days there is hope and others everything he does reinforces the D. My H has me served in March and I still have not detached! it has been so hard for me to do so.

I can't believe after 25 years together he is able to walk away. However, I also know that this hasn't been an easy decision for him and I know he hurt badly at the beginning trying to decide what to do. (H told me this)

Believe it to not, I think they are hurt and confused as we are, and the only way they can see to stop their hurt is to get away from us.

I don't have much advice as I am poorly equipped to deal with my own situation.

Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18
EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13
Move to work abroad Sept 14
re establish contact with OW while away
D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15