Dear friends, I am always thankful for your replies, because it helps me to keep me on track in those difficult times. So I explain my sitch and maybe I am going into wrong directions?
I have no problems with the idea, to be divorced from W. If there were no kids involved, I would wave goodbye and start a new life. She is no longer the W I have been married to for nearly 20yrs. And I have been honest with her about that. I have told her, that I am not in love with her right now. And she said she can understand that.
Right now it is about this family. If she feels the need to tear this family into two pieces, than she should take ALL the responsibility for this move. I want to be able to tell my kids in the future, that I did not support the end of the family as they knew it.
Am I stubborn? I am thinking about your assumption, but it does not feel this way for me. I just do not want her to be able to say: "Your Dad agreed on the divorce. That is the way adults deal with it." I am convinced, that it is wrong to end this family without trying everything. I do not want to give her any support for an idea, that is against my conviction.
Another point is: She does not share anything about her life. She asks a lot of questions, is looking for informations from me "where have you applied?", "When could the new job start?", "Where are you going?" and so on. But she does not share anything about her life. Nothing. Just vague stuff. So I have no idea what she is thinking or doing right now. I do not trust her.
Well, those are my thoughts. Let me know, what you think about it. Maybe I am heading for the wrong direction.
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
