I tried to get him to explain why but he said he was tired and we could talk about it later. Ugh.
Hi Marylov,
Your dates seem like a step in the right direction. My WAW is living 3 1/2 hrs away with her Mom/Stepdad and she doesn't want to see me now. So, that's a good start!
I'm not an expert like some of the vets on these forums, but I don't think it's a good idea to try to get him to explain why he doesn't think you two should make a habit of spending intimate time together (did I understand you correctly?).
By doing so, he may feel you are pressuring him. Instead, try validating his feelings. There are great validation statements in the "Validation Cheat Sheet." Remember, this is not a sprint, think of it as a marathon.
I wish you all the best. Hang in there.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
