Control sited as to why an affair

[MrBond]

Here's the way I see it.

You and your W started out dishonestly. The way you describe your W and your relationship, you were deep in the fog yourself when you had an A and cheated on your first W. Yes I understand what you said about your first M, but you know what? It's what all WAS's say about their M's just so they can move on to another relationship. You were M'd when you met and had a relationship with your current W, therefore you were having an A.

Yes it's written that all A's end. Have you ever considered that THIS M of yours is the A that's ending? That's the way I see it. Because you and your W never bothered to look at what caused your first M's to fail. In fact, reading your description of your first M, you blame it all on your first W. We don't know her side of the story.

So here you are now. Your W now is wanting to leave because she feels it's easier to leave someone than working on a R like she did with her first H and like how you did with your first W.

How did the two of you deal with conflict? Did the two of you actually tried listening to one another or did you just ignore each other?

You actually wanting to tell the kids is just wanting to shame her. In fact, it's a little hypocritical since you cheated on your first W don't you think?