Back again, advice needed..

[Zues126]

Thank you so much for your reply!!
1. I have stuff of his here, would you bring it with you when we meet on Friday or save that for another time? It's just some clothes and small nicknack's.

2. He's going back to the US for work in 6 weeks time, he is staying for 5 weeks. He was supposed to bring back some items for me, since that shop don't deliver to Europe. Is it wrong of me to ask him if that still is ok? I thought that maybe when he comes back, we could meet and maybe maybe maybe he'd had some time to think things over and see that he had missed me..

3. Silly question, but I guess asking him if he wants a break where we go totally black for a month or so, wont do any good at this point?

4. We're friends on FB. Is that a bad thing for upcoming "going black"?

I will read your thread.. It's middle of the night here in Sweden now, but sleeping is soooo out of the question tonight..

THANK YOU again!!!

1. I wouldn't bring anything. That could be misinterpreted as guilting, dramatic, etc. Let him lead on how he wants to deal with that.

2. I wouldn't set up any future arrangements, that could seem very controlling or clingy. I'd just see if he brought it up. If not it depends on what we're talking about. If I could live without it I'd just let it go. If not, I would wait until he brought up the stuff at your place, then you could casually bring into the conversation about how he'd prefer to forward you your things.

3. Correct, it looks weak because he's not asking your permission. You are no longer working on things together. He is ignoring your wants/needs and just taking what he wants. It stinks. So it would be like asking a robber if they wanted to borrow some money.

4. I'm not on facebook so I don't know the etiquette. I would probably just leave it on there, quit checking it, and quit posting. Unfriending him could be misinterpreted. Posting lots of stuff for him to see or checking constantly could drive you crazy. Not checking it, and not posting is best. You stay detached, you stay dark. Maybe someday he'll wonder what you're up to?

If you don't have the discipline to do this maybe have your best friend change your password so you can't log in, then reevaluate in 30/60 days. That's actually pretty brilliant

Thank you for reading my thread. If you read my last post you'll see how far I've come. I hope you start with the VERY beginning (view all posts, last page, thread 1). You can't read them all in one night, but I didn't really post THAT much. And I've learned SO much in a year, I really feel that anyone that reads through them will learn some things. Not because I have it figured out, but because I don't...you can see not just "this is how to do things", but the whole evolution of me being broken to me being whatever the heck I am now. Happily broken?

Keep posting a lot too!