I haven't thought about writing anything helpful for anyone else, and I haven't thought of anything to write about my own sitch, until now...
W texted me on Monday night to invite me over to help d17 evaluate her college choices. D17 had 2 colleges to go over, and I essentially did spreadsheets on the 2 schools, and showed there was over a $10k difference for the schools.
I told d17 I would call the 2 schools the next day to see if there were any other options. And yes, it was so bad, schoo1 #1(the one with better grants/scholarships) answered my call, clearly answered my q's, gave me a website to provide more of a detailed response, they were great.
School #2, who happens to be in-state, provides significantly worse scholarships/grants, and I called them on Tuesday morning and left a detailed message, and in 2 days they haven't even bothered to return my phone call. I don't even think they are in the running right now, though they are the "religious" choice.
Oh and btw, W was there as I went over the numbers for d17, on her phone the entire time, and was eating a garlic pretzel snack mix. I and d17 declined. Then W said the garlic was so strong that she had to go brush her teeth, taking her phone with her and then disappeared for 10 minutes. Yes, I'm sick of her acting like a 20-something with her phone.
What made it worse, today W texts me and says there is a $500 application fee for school #1 and she asked how much I was going to contribute. I am frustrated as I gave her all of the recent tax return refunds (over $7k) and of course W said this was going partially to the kids. I just texted her to say how happy I was d17 had made her choice on schools, I just couldn't bring myself to respond directly to her question on how much I was going to contribute.
Oh yes, W was mad at d20 on Sunday (d20 has a truck) who was late in getting her truck to help with several "furniture moves". D20 is always late, so I tried to calm W down as she was fuming as d20 wasn't at the scheduled furniture move on time. W knows better than to expect d20 to be on time. It wasn't my issue.
