Back again, advice needed..

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So this all went to hell.. All good little things I thought we still had going for us over and done with. Talked to him earlier today. Yesterday he said over the phone that we should meet. We have a holiday coming up this weekend, and I said maybe we could go watch the big bonfire and so on.

Today he said that the reason he wanted us to get together to "talk". He said that he had hoped these few days that had gone with no contact would have showed him that he missed me, but unfortunately he found that he didn't. He says his feelings have changed and are more or less non existent now and he doesn't know why, but feelings change, don't they?

I didn't plead I didn't cry, I just said that I hear him and that I think it's a mistake but I have no interest to persuade him to be in a relationship with me. I said that I had hoped that we could have given it a chance, to see if we could find our way back, but again I can't make him do anything.

I just can't believe how quick this is. He says it's got nothing to do with OW and I do believe that, but his behaviour makes me think that I might be stupid to believe him because I can't see why he's in such a rush to call it quits otherwise.

So now he wants to get together the day after tomorrow to "talk". I'm scared to death, and don't know what to say to him. I can't very well decline meeting him, since we still haven't said "it's over".

I won't make a big scene or anything, but if ANYONE has any good advice on how to deal with this meeting I would be very happy for some input!

I know people have a story under their name, I will figure it out and write one but here goes the quick review.

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Age: Me 44years Him 43 years
Together: Soon 2 years.
Kids: Me -Son 22 years. Him :Twin girls 16 son 9
Life: We don't live together yet, due to work. Live in neighbouring towns.
History: All been very good up until this winter/spring winter when he was overloaded with work and with his kids who's mum got a new baby with new man making him more needed by them.
His job took him overseas for extended period this spring. We have spent mostly time in front of tv, over dinner and in bed last 4-5 months.

4 weeks ago: He says next business I have to come or his not going.
3 weeks ago: Discussion about problem with his son.
2 1/2weeks ago: He says his feelings has changed. He doesn't feel as much for me, thinks travelling between us is hard and not as fun when not as invested. We talk and decide to give it a try to change the relationship back to a positive one.
10 days ago: Says feelings still the same. We fall out over the phone. Decide to have a few days to think.
4 days ago: Meet up for coffee. Lots of discussion. He's pretty firm on that his feelings have changed, but says he's in no hurry to figure this out.
3 days ago: Talk on the phone, ends with us talking about wanting to have sex, and getting pretty hot and steamy about it.
2 days ago: He calls. I end the call, being happy as a clam all through.
1 day ago: I call. He sounds happy. Says several nice things and wants to get together.
Today: He says he's got "no feelings" and that he doesn't know why or what to do about it. //

Anybody out there? Please, I'll take any comment what so ever.
Is there anyway for me to change this around? What to do if he says it's over? I can feel him slipping away and don't know what to do about it..

Hugs to h