Rys I have read your sitch for a bit, have not posted much just due to the fact you have been given solid advice and better yet you have walked through this so well.
Originally Posted By: RysinMn
So i guess things have gone sour for her since leaving me for him. Well i tried to contact her about the keys for the house but did not get a response for a week. Yesterday i get a text telling me she was sorry, but she was so stressed out about events in her life she had to get away and go see her mom, and that she will be gone for almost a month. Crazy i would have to say, considering just two months ago she told me that her life and happiness was going to be here in Hawaii and she was never going to leave the island and that i was on my own.
Funny how when we LBS's arrive at true detachment and actually settle into our GAL's this tends to happen. Its all fantasyville till the reality of the situation hits them, we have to deal with that reality much sooner so we tend to be used to it, now she is facing the fallout from her actions.
Originally Posted By: RysinMn
It is amazing how things change, my GAL is in full swing, im living my life for me and my happiness and now she is the one that is no longer happy. To be honest i have begun to really think if reconciliation is what i really want for the future. Does everyone go through this type of thinking once they have completely detached for the situation and relationship? I decided to buy myself a new truck this past weekend, gave me a little anxiety signing the papers but i decided that i deserved to spoil myself and make myself happy for a change. And i have to say it felt great driving that truck off the lot. And i couldn’t be happier about it. Things are definitely looking up for me and my future thanks to everyone who has ever given me advice!
I can not speak for everyone, just myself on ^^^^ that. I think for me I was so focused at first in saving the M and praying the A would end I could not think of anything else and would jump at a chance for R. Now ... after GAL and getting myself together .. like you said I have come out the other side and for me R is on the table, heck the W is actively looking up ways to fix all she has done. My sitch is different than yours as its a MLC issue but those feelings are the same. I was spinning (still am I think) for now what a month trying to figure out if this is really what I want. Do I want to R with her, or has that ship been through to much to salvage ... its the million dollar question.
Kudos on the truck, I did similar and bought a Harley, I was almost emotional when they handed me the keys, cranked up other bikes, honked horns and welcomed me into the family.
You have walked this with dignity and grace, handled yourself very well, I would be shocked if your W did not have some serious "Oh Chit what did I do's" .... what ever the future might have for you both you are in control of, it will be your choice.
