As you know - my WAW is engaged in an active affair. I have informed her that unless she is willing to work on the marriage without a third party involved, I will not participate in counseling.
EMAIL from WW
It appears issues that haunted us duringour marriage will probably not be resolved in our future as co-parents unless we take steps to resolve it. I think it would be good for us and for the children if we come to common ground on being able to discuss issues with them and with each other.
Do you have any suggestions? Counseling?
SUGGESTED RESPONSE FROM ME
Things are difernent now between you and I and our family.
I will participate in counseling with you when you end your affair and comit to our marriage and family.
If you are unwilling to end your affair, and commit to our family fully, I will not participate in any counseling.
Thoughts? Any way I can say it better, less formal?
I feel terrible that she started this affair, left me and now blames me for it and now wants co parent counseling. Why does she get to call all the shots? She had the affair and now she decides that we should go to co parenting counseling? Is this just me or is this whacked?
Part of me feels like no response is detaching, the other part of me feels irresponsible for not continuing the drama with her. It feels like a no win situation.
