Mozza, I took your advice and switched my username (I think) and it is waiting for administrator approval. Hopefully it wont cause me to get lost to everyone that has been contributing. I am now XFit14....it wouldnt give me enough spaces to do crossfit....I tried. :-)

I do agree that I am lucky. I have only been on here a few days and from all the time I spent reading I know who the Vets are and I appreciate the time and effort they are putting in to give me advice and support. Yourself included!

I started reading your situation last night and had to be out the door early early this morning and was exhausted last night so I will finish it when I get home this evening. I am sorry to hear you had a somewhat similar situation. I have seen so much pain and suffering and loss in the jobs I have had throughout my life and in the career I am currently in. That being said, I dont understand how family (be it direct or by marriage) can do what they do to each other sometimes. I still have trouble wrapping my head around the fact that my father in law SUED his own daughter for custody of HER son....multiple times as well as lied and made false accusations and complaints against his son in law in attempts to get him (me) fired which would affect the livlihood of his grandson! Who DOES something like that??? ( I am not looking for an answer on that it was rhetorical)

I am working on myself and have been since day one. I have always considered myself a work in progress and this whoile mess has just been a giant eye opener on one of the major things (harboring and dispersion of anger) that I need to work on. I need to learn to focus on the important things in a relationship rather than what I did and to let things go that arent going to matter in ten years (or less or more). I have been saying for months that this isnt a total bad thing in that it woke me the hell up as to my negative attitude and how I was allowing someone else's actions to affect my actions within my family, friends and job. I would have preferred the end result to be different but it is over and done (divorce).....but I still have hope or I am trying to

Last edited by Lost14; 04/29/15 08:18 PM.
M 44 W 44
Married 2007
T-8 years
M-7 years
1 stepson (now age 16)
BD October 2014
I moved out Feb 2015
Divorce final ....(4-27-15)