RD, thanks for the good luck wishes and extra lucky kisses - just what I needed!

Pink, thanks for your thoughts. I will think about more IC. Mostly, I'm doing reasonably well, but I don't cry that much or get that angry recently, and I don't want to be suppressing stuff. Seeing a cllr does help release some of the emotion I think.

Just back from yoga and had a nice phone chat with my old neighbour. I had hoped to see her Monday when I went up, but she was away. She told me that five couples (including us) have S in our road this year. No-one S the whole time I lived there (5+ years - sad...)

Jim, thanks for your ideas. I knew I was going to be challenged on the - well, I only have two options comment. And your idea is a really good one. I read it and thought - wow! I truly wouldn't have thought of doing that, and it just goes to show the value of these boards. I don't need to shut up and put up or file for D, I can just start progressing things in the direction I want.

All is quiet anyway right now, and I'll give things a week or so for him to respond. Failing that, I may just start moving things in the direction I want as you suggest. I agree with you about that dynamic. As he tends to not come back to me, it is better to go with the - I'm moving forward with this, if you have any views let me know by X - otherwise I'll assume you're happy - genius! It's funny, I deal with that kind of scenario at work all the time. Just wouldn't have thought of doing that here!

Thanks guys - you are friends indeed. Now then - what to wear for tomorrow...x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus