It's a nightmare. Wake me up 2

[koalada]

Today W asked again for my support to end this M. She said, that I could not ask her to stay in a relationship, she does not want to stay in. I have told her, that I respect her POV, but that she can not ask me, to help her to tear this family in two parts. I have to do, what I think is right and serves and protects the family. My opinion is as valid as hers.
I was clear and polite. She said, she was already working on a way to get two households, without me being part of the process. She would organize everything, but expects me not to put any stones in her way.

I do not want to take the responsibility for her decisions.

Btw. She wants to borrow my new car (a used one) for her study weekends. I am not sure what to do about this. She is talking about "our car". There would be an advantage to a shared car. In Germany you have to live separated for one year, before you can make a divorce final. As long as we are using the same stuff, eating out of one fridge and share stuff and responsibilities for the household, the separation year does not start.