Ok, met with my attorney. She confirmed in the state of KS, me moving out will 100% have no baring on child custody, how much I'm entitled to, my stake in the house, etc. The courts will not view it as a negative - at all. Also said she would get a temporary parental agreement that mirrors what ww already put in she wants - 50/50 split and we can work out finances owed during the divorce/separation period.
Also, spoke with my DB Coach and she said that me moving out was the best thing for me. Said it would give me a chance to GAL and not be triggered every day in the house. Also said my game plan is to go dark vs. LRT and see how that helps.
Will it have a positive effect on our R? No idea. But, it feels like staying in the house just to spite her or force her to see positive changes in me isn't working either.
I can have the conversation that I'm moving out for me and need time to process things and be the best thing for me. That will ALSO imply the disrespect and OM boundary I already gave Sunday.
Good luck! I think this will be good for YOU. Hang in there, Rip!
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
