So how you will let WW be herself and you will be yourself?
Maybe first, stop the whole pursuing thing. You know you are just putting pressure on her. This won't help her to see the real T and what are his changes and how much grown up he has been doing.
I know you are young, but less talking and more action will go a long way for you. Let her see your routine, like if you go walk the dogs, get ready, get the dogs ready, just say you are going for a walk and informally ask if she wants to join you. Like: Hey *** I am going for a walk, care to join us? - If she says yes, then you go outside the house, playing with your dogs and wait for her, during the walk talk informal stuff, maybe some work stuff if she likes to hear. No R talk. If she start R talk just listen and learn what is inside her.
If she says no, I do not want to walk. Then you go by yourself, enjoy the time, comeback feeling good, with a smile on your face. Do not overdue, just be simple happy.
Be a little more secret, don't be available for her all the time. She is now observing you too, she is thinking and asking herself how much she loves you, what she wants today and what she wants tomorrow.
Be gentle, interesting, private. When you talk to her, control your temper, don't say too much, look in her eyes, give her attention.
Many times, get out of her way. Like one evening, go to your room, read a book, chose a good one that will send her a message that you are really changing and wants to be a better man. If she sees it and asks, comment about the book.
Do you know her Love Language? If you do, use that (not so obvious) in your benefit.
And most important, don't rush the process. She seems not ready for all this change, so be patient, things may get worse before they get better. Be calm.
I agree that Broking Together is a good song. Is your wife also a faithful person as you are? What about going to church together? Listen to these songs together?
I love "I'M NOT ALONE". Last time I saw my H, he said this song was playing on the Shuttle radio that he took from the airport, he said he tough about me and wrote a message, then he deleted the msg thinking that I would not care for his silly words. Then I sang the whole song in front of him and he just sat there looking at me. At the end he said I am a very beautiful woman and the song goes well for him too.
