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Toots gave me a reason WHY moving out helped her and the majority of people are saying to stay.

However, not hearing a why. Not saying I'm disagreeing with any point - I'm asking for them.


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In some states, leaving the family home can be considered abandonment and might affect your parental custody rights.

Ask your lawyer that specific question.


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Even if ww put a temporary order in to have me vacate?


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Originally Posted By: Drew
In some states, leaving the family home can be considered abandonment and might affect your parental custody rights.

Ask your lawyer that specific question.

Yes this is what I am concerned about, you have children, and you want to fight for as much custody with them as possible.


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Will do. My question is still based on that not having an effect. So, if my attorney says it will make no impact and I can move out if I choose, than what say you, group?


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Originally Posted By: Ripken8
Even if ww put a temporary order in to have me vacate?

That may be why she did it.

You need to protect yourself and your kids.


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Originally Posted By: Ripken8
Will do. My question is still based on that not having an effect. So, if my attorney says it will make no impact and I can move out if I choose, than what say you, group?

That's a big decision and one only you can make.

I would get something in writing first though.


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Thanks - Drew. Understand it's my choice, but looking for input. Also very much understand the legal side and talking with my attorney on that.

Assuming there's no problems (won't make decision until verifying that first), what other impact would this have on my relationship with ww? THAT'S what I need help with.

Wouldn't moving out be better stress/anxiety/resentment wise so she actually cares enough to initiate and miss me? Allows me to go dark.


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Originally Posted By: Ripken8
Wouldn't moving out be better stress/anxiety/resentment wise so she actually cares enough to initiate and miss me? Allows me to go dark.

Rip my friend,

Even if you find out it's okay from your L to leave, my advice is not to.

Sandi has stated many times that women respect a man with inner-strength. That includes being decisive, standing up to your W and refusing to be a doormat.

What do others think? Rip is in a real bind.

Bob


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Originally Posted By: Bob723
Even if you find out it's okay from your L to leave, my advice is not to.

Sandi has stated many times that women respect a man with inner-strength. That includes being decisive, standing up to your W and refusing to be a doormat.

Bob is giving you great advice!


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