1. I miss my kids so much. As a dad I don't get to see them that much, and they miss me too. I've always been very involved in their lives. This large amount of separation is very hard.
Why don't you get to see them that often? Did your ex get sole custody and move them far away? What is the visitation arrangement based on the divorce decree? If you want more time with them, can you negotiate that with her? If you feel like you aren't seeing them enough then do something to increase the time you can be with them.
Originally Posted By: ntincu
2. My ex moved on so quickly. She's all happy in her new relationship, and I feel like I am stuck in misery. Kind of makes it feel like I didn't matter to her.
I'd stop focusing on your ex if I were you - it's a cheeseless tunnel. Happy on the outside doesn't necessarily mean there is happy going on in the inside. Either way, your focus should be on getting you to happy.
Originally Posted By: ntincu
4. The dating scene here is horrible. Not that I'm ready to date, but if you don't want to pick up people in bars there's not much else. It's a very lonely town if you're single and over 40. Match and eHarmony are a waste of time too.
5. Related to 4, I don't date well. I met my ex by going out with my work friends, but I'm lousy finding and approaching women. It wasn't hard with her, we just clicked. I don't have those kinds of friends, or work environment anymore. All my friends are married with kids, and my new place of work is very office like. No one seems to hang out outside of work.
From what you have written I think it's way too early for you to be thinking about dating. You have work to do on yourself before you can present yourself as a good candidate for someone else. You need to get to a place that when you look in the mirror you see someone you like before you can put yourself out there and find someone who also likes you. Are you in counseling? If not you might want to consider it and work on yourself.
Originally Posted By: ntincu
There isn't much around here for me to get involved in, because of my weird schedule. Between teaching my karate class and my visitation schedule it's hard to do something weekly, which most college or park district programs are. To be honest I don't have the money anyway. Between my debt and child support I don't have any money.
Check out meetup.com. There are lots of groups on it with various interests and many of them have outings that cost little or no money. It's a great place to just meet friends who have similar interests as you. It will give you an opportunity to get out and about.
Originally Posted By: ntincu
p.s. BeginningAgain your corrections on your posts made me chuckle.
I'm happy I gave you a laugh! Afterall, laughter is the best medicine.
