Thank you everyone, I truly appreciate the help! Couple questions.

1. I am going to give him a list of monthly household expenses to use each month to give me the funds I need. I am looking for a job, and will tell him so. Would it be best to call him, or just text it? After that is done, I want to have no more contact with him so that I can detach.

2. Zelda.....is Stockdale paradox just something I can Google for info?

M: 47 / H: 52
No children.
Own a business together.
Told me he wanted a divorce: 3/31
Moved out: 4/7
Confirmed OW: 4/16
Took divorce off the table: 4/24