Wayward Wife and the Way of LRT Pt. 2

[Defacto]

De facto, you are doing awesome. It's great to see your situation. I on the other hand am not. My wife is trying to kick me out of the house. It's so uncomfortable I'm not sure if staying here or separating would be best anymore. So hard to see her everyday and not interact. But if we separate lrt seems harder and with divorce going on the strategy of dragging feet and riding it out seemed to make sense.

Seems like in your case separation is helping.

Rip,
Thanks again for the support. I don't think my sitch is really improving a whole lot, other than moving towards a likely conclusion. However, I do feel that I have improved. I am not familiar with the details of your sitch, but my W moving out did wonders for my emotional and mental stability.

Just my 2 cents. You really need to limit contact and conversations with your W to only kid related stuff. I know validating and what not is part of DB. But understand that there are apps on people's cell phones that record entire conversations. If you are validating her reasons for her actions those conversations may not help you should this end up in front of a judge. She is not anywhere near ready to work on the M and she seems to be baiting you quite a bit. My opinion is you need to remove yourself from those conversations completely.

Pilot, I have looked into recording the conversations also. However, my state is a two party consent state so the recordings would be inadmissible in court. As far as my W not being ready to work on M right now, I think you're right. I think yesterday's convo with W was really a power play on her part, thinking that I would simply give in to her demands. Like before, when I do not budge, W resorts to the spew. I do need to continue to steer the conversations back to the kids.

W did call once more last night to check on the kids at bedtime. The kids were asleep when she called so I told W a cute story about D4. I could tell the story cheered her up. I asked how work was going and W told me that she was nervous because the boss needed to see her about an issue with a patient from a previous night. I replied with a sincere "Oh no! That [censored]. I'm so sorry. Good luck." W shared a little more about story with patient. W then asked me to say a quick prayer for her. I told her to remember the cute story of D4 and again wished her good luck.

I know W is leaving bread crumbs here. I just think I am remaining cordial, consistent, and confident. I don't see this as pursuit. W was being vulnerable and I wanted my response to be real.

Anyway, have a great Wednesday. I am going to an outdoor festival tonight to see one of my favorite bands so I am pretty excited for that!