During the low point of this (when I found out my W was still having the A) she said some things about the affair.

1. I now it cant go anywhere, he has nothing
2. It will end as he (the OM) is leaving the country (mid May) to go back home (Latvia) as he has nothing here to keep him.
3. W could not ask him to stop for her she said.

I feel that she is doing exactly what is in the script, Keeping me in reserve, (which I said to her) and having cake and eating it.

SO

Would advice be to remove myself completely from anything to do with M (Like, I have changed my working week significantly to helping with the childcare (so she can work at new job and I beleive....errr actually know to see OM)

Advice welcome