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[edz]

(((((Toots)))))

I can understand the MH thing Toots. Before I moved out whenever I went "home" I was surrounded by the memories just in the layout (I know you said contents had been changed at your MH) once I moved out that stress stopped and since I'd done some heavy lifting rearranging things for w before I left and she and MIL consequentially moved everything else around its not quite as bad when I go there, now its better of course as long as the sitch stays on the up.

So I understand how the place echoes in your mind when you go back.

I completely get the frustration aspect as I hope you can imagine, I'm pretty open on here and I think ive come across sometimes as ready to eat my way through the matress let alone pound at it, you are completely right that the one thing you can 100% change any way you want is you and you can be calm and relaxed as I know you almost always come across as being so here

If I had to put one name to the common feeling Ive had throughout this process its frustration, at myself for any part I played, at w for not talking or giving me signs on what she wanted, at myself for goofing up. It's, well, frustrating!

Sounds like the meditation and reframing are THE way to go, dont forget Puss too, stroking a mog cat will lower blood pressure which has been proven, get a nice grooming kit and set some time aside (and if she's like the BFT a hoover, bin bags....) and get some serious mog cat time in there

Enjoy your day (((((Toots))))) sure you'll ace tomorrow

Edz