Bright - I was just emailng with an old friend whose xh also had a MLC. For us it is a long time and yet she emailed me yesterday saying that she still had moments of disbelief that this had happened to her - she has survived it, but it is incredible that someone could act that way.
Trauma is difficult to get past.
Unfortunately for many the touchstone sems to be 'are you in a new relationship? (yet)' Even some posters here I am sorry to say.
This is so not the point. If we meet someone new, great, but if dealing with MLC has taught me one thing it is to be very careful.
A new relationship is so right for some people and turns out to be not at all what some of us really want in life. But we don't find this out right away.
Please don't think I am knocking those who meet up with a new person and are happy - that is great, but it isn't either the purpose of our journey nor is it a sign that we have healed.
We want happy endings, but I always wonder what happens next, after the honeymoon?
