Hi Seaside, so sorry that you find yourself here, but so glad you have as you will get great support and advise from everyone.
I am still new to this, so I am better at the support/morale bit than advice, but will say to you read all of the links that cadet has posted for you, they are full of really good information. My other tip is to read as many threads as possible, you will find that some stories resonate with you, read them from the beginning to see how far they have come - there are lots of us here, different stages and situations.
