Bright, Please go back and re-read the recent postings to you. They all say the same thing...it takes time and each person is different and handles the crisis in their own unique way. You will get to where you think you need to be when you are ready. Until that time, live your life to the fullest and know that no matter what happens, you are going to be okay.
BTW, you've reached the 100th posting/reply...time to think about a new thread.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.