I realize a little while ago that I was doing LRT wrong. I was doing it like I was withdrawn. Doing it out of fear, negativity, and as Mr Bond pointed out, probably depression.

I've been doing a lot better having a PMA and things seem to be going better.

I've been refining my DR goals, which initially were drastically too aggressive.

Current goals:

I will engage her about non-kid related subjects and actively listen for 4 out of seven days

I will be outrightly honest with her regarding custody arrangements and I will be respectful of her thoughts and feelings on the subject

I will do something with other people each day this weekend.

I did have a positive accomplishment this morning. I am in Vegas right now for work, and while I was getting breakfast for the kids this morning, she asked me where I was staying. This is the first time she's asked me about anything I'm doing or that's going on in my life since the filing of divorce.

Then, as I was packing my luggage in the master bedroom, she came in and sat on the bed. I put everything down and actively listened while she told me a kid related story. This is the first time she's come into the room I'm in and initiated a conversation of any kind since the filing. She assumed a submissive and comfortable pose in a room with only me in it, to talk to me.

I have to celebrate the progress that's been made, while fully understanding there is so much further to go.

I still struggle mightily with the idea of holding out hope for our marriage, and moving forward with my life as a divorced man.


Me: 35 Her (WAW): 34
D8, S5, D2
T:16, M:9
BD + D: 4/3/2015
EA Confirmed 5/6/2015
Separation under the same roof