Raliced - The Magnificent Seventh

[Mozza]

I now realize that I overstated my position when I sad "do not allow any change to the schedule. The fact is that, even under our rigid system, I've agreed to five changes over the last seven months. The reasons were a wedding, a funeral, an oversea visitor (FIL), a sick day, and even a romantic trip for WW and OM (I've never asked any change). So I'm certainly not trying to stick it to WW and make her life more difficult, quite the opposite: all the changes were to accommodate her, even when it was hurtful to me (four of these five were hurtful in some way).

I meant that the kind of last minute change like had just happened, but also the kind of change that make every second week a negotiation, for the slightest accommodation. I believe Maybell is dealing with something like this, and starting to set up boundaries.

As for your STBX not complimenting your parenting, it's quite sad. In my M, we always made sure to repeat how supportive we were of each other's parenting and tell everyone about it, even if we something criticized the work or decisions of the other. I'll say that the flip side of fathers being considered incompetent by default is that the work that mothers do is taken for granted. Dads do 50%: "Wow, amazing!" Moms do 50%: "You have such a great H!" You seem to excel at everything you do and I can only expect that you're also a great mom.

Underdog - I knew that D7 made her bag look heavy because she tends to be lazy and uses such tactics to get out of certain tasks. My decision to load her bag this way was based on 7 years of raising her. This woman came out of context and I did not owe her a background story. Hope this clarifies.